This year my mother has got worse and worse with her behaviour. shes miserable most of the time and talks angrily about the past every day, mentioning people's names from the past with anger (even though I wasnt around at that time and dont know these people), but yet the family bares the brunt of it. She breaks things every day in the house in anger, even ripping up money. I gave her a gift this year, and it ended up broken in two pieces because we had an argument. Recently she has started breaking my things. I had something I made when I was a child and because I didnt do as she said, when she wanted, ( she didnt want to wait) she broke it infront of me, after she asked if i remebered making it. This was something that i cannot replace. she can get really viscous and say the worst things to me/about me. she hit me this year. She acts meek and mild to most other people outside the house. Like butter wouldnt melt. She can be nice to me too. Its honestly like two complete opposite people. She seems to have so much energy when shes angry - she wont give up. She'l shout out stuff outside so other people can hear (neighbours etc) when she isnt getting her own way, things to try and embarass us, personal things that we wouldnt want other people to hear. Shel shout louder if you say anything to her, so we have to back down. She does this every day. She can get triggered by anything. something on tv, something on the radio - and shel revert it to her past in which she feels hard done by, and get angry, and then noone can be happy that day because thats what she decides. she doesnt seem to like to do nice things but then moans that she never does. Shes very controlling and needs her own way all the time. When shes angry she'l flip to be crying and weak, then angry and strong again. Even if we had a day out, shed just flip at something and that would be it. we'd all have to go home. Christmas day she started an argument and I ended up alone because noone could stand it and all drove away. She wont aknowledge she needs help. Its like walking on egg shells. We cant really have people over because you dont know what shes going to do. She likes to randomly embarass you while other people can listen, or say some wild accusations. If she does something wrong (break something or shout something) shel play the victim and make it so you were the one that did something wrong Or revert it back to the past again, or more than likely shel instantly pick out a flaw and diminish you with it, vicously. I dont know what to do. I try not to let her words affect me when she says nasty things to me but its difficult. Shes so up and down, all day everyday. And she determines if we can have a good day. She doesnt like me discussing any of this with my siblings or anyone ( but she can do what she wants), but she'd do something to 'ger her own back/revenge. Theres deffinitly two rules, one for her and one for us. Shes threatened ringing up my work collegaues and friends to embarass me. I dont even know if she has. Can someone please make some sense of this? Its affecting me so much and I need some advice.