My wife recently told me that I'm a pathological liar that can't be cured so I'm turning to experts in this forum for advices.
Initially I didn't think so because I believe I'm usually truthful most of the time, but when I started to review my behaviour in the last 30 years I now think it's true.
I'm going to try to shorten the long story, I have been a horrible scum and I am currently speaking to a therapist about it, so please ignore the fact that I am a despicable person, this is the thread I'm looking help for a pathological liar, not about other things I've done.
- I think it started many years ago, I went to strip clubs with some friends, when my wife found out from other people, I kept denying it. (I know, it's stupid, it was nothing to lie about)
- I promised my wife I quit smoking (also many years ago), but I kept on going back to smoking after quitting time after time. Whenever she smelled smoke on me or caught a glimpse of me smoking, I immediately denied again and again.
- Recently I've been addicted to an online game for over 2 years, I avoided my wife and family to spend as much time as I can with this game, causing issues with my wife to the point that I lied about where I went, what I was doing, and got angry whenever she confronted me about playing this game. I recently discovered that it was an addiction and quit the game.
- This is the worst, I cheated on my wife for 2 years, my wife found out about it a couple of months ago. During this 2 years of cheating, I deceived my wife on a lot of things so that she wasn't suspecting about the cheating, lies and lies and lies....
I realized that I've been an extremely horrible human being, a scum of a husband. It was like I suddenly woke up from a nightmare, realized how much a wonderful wife and mother she's been in all these years, I realized that I still love her very much so I started seeking help from a Therapist to talk about my infidelity, I quit smoking permanently, and I quit the game. I've been begging my wife to give me a second chance.
My wife told that those were not the only lies, she said that I denied and twisted anything that would make me look bad. So her conclusion is that because I'm a pathological liar, she doesn't think we can recover from my infidelity, because I will go back to cheating and lie to her again. I feel so ashamed and I vouched to myself to never cheat to break her heart again, but I don't blame her for not believing it.
So what I'm asking for help from this forum is: Am I a pathological liar? Is there any treatment for this behaviour?
I'm getting sick and tired of the secrets and lies, please advise.
Initially I didn't think so because I believe I'm usually truthful most of the time, but when I started to review my behaviour in the last 30 years I now think it's true.
I'm going to try to shorten the long story, I have been a horrible scum and I am currently speaking to a therapist about it, so please ignore the fact that I am a despicable person, this is the thread I'm looking help for a pathological liar, not about other things I've done.
- I think it started many years ago, I went to strip clubs with some friends, when my wife found out from other people, I kept denying it. (I know, it's stupid, it was nothing to lie about)
- I promised my wife I quit smoking (also many years ago), but I kept on going back to smoking after quitting time after time. Whenever she smelled smoke on me or caught a glimpse of me smoking, I immediately denied again and again.
- Recently I've been addicted to an online game for over 2 years, I avoided my wife and family to spend as much time as I can with this game, causing issues with my wife to the point that I lied about where I went, what I was doing, and got angry whenever she confronted me about playing this game. I recently discovered that it was an addiction and quit the game.
- This is the worst, I cheated on my wife for 2 years, my wife found out about it a couple of months ago. During this 2 years of cheating, I deceived my wife on a lot of things so that she wasn't suspecting about the cheating, lies and lies and lies....
I realized that I've been an extremely horrible human being, a scum of a husband. It was like I suddenly woke up from a nightmare, realized how much a wonderful wife and mother she's been in all these years, I realized that I still love her very much so I started seeking help from a Therapist to talk about my infidelity, I quit smoking permanently, and I quit the game. I've been begging my wife to give me a second chance.
My wife told that those were not the only lies, she said that I denied and twisted anything that would make me look bad. So her conclusion is that because I'm a pathological liar, she doesn't think we can recover from my infidelity, because I will go back to cheating and lie to her again. I feel so ashamed and I vouched to myself to never cheat to break her heart again, but I don't blame her for not believing it.
So what I'm asking for help from this forum is: Am I a pathological liar? Is there any treatment for this behaviour?
I'm getting sick and tired of the secrets and lies, please advise.