My Oldest Son continuously being annoyed by my younger son; oldest started crying uncontrollably today because the younger was being annoying

[ESmith84]

The title explains most of what this post is about.

Longer Story
Yesterday, my youngest son was being highly annoying to the entire family.
This morning, when my oldest son woke up, he was in a very bad mood, which he later claimed was due to his younger brother.
Anyway, I left the house before either of my sons had woke up and got back at roughly 1PM.
When I got home, I could tell my oldest son was in a bad mood and when asked what was wrong, he said that he was highly annoyed with his brother and he then started crying uncontrollably.
He’s never done this before.

Should we be worried?

 

[Peter Hausamann]

Re-assure them that they are really okay.
In their okayness there is no fear if things don't go their own way (not God's way). To realize one's okayness helps them to see that their is no need to be in a bad mood, be annoying, or wanting the other person to be nice to them. Okay people live and let live. . . they become unconditional, not conditional.
Unfortunately most other people don't know how to cope with life's non-okayness. Those lacking coping strategies around them (school, etc) tend to be their role models. Home is their haven, and main reference point on how to cope, with self, whenever they don't feel okay.

 

[Usedandabused]

The title explains most of what this post is about.

Longer Story
Yesterday, my youngest son was being highly annoying to the entire family.
This morning, when my oldest son woke up, he was in a very bad mood, which he later claimed was due to his younger brother.
Anyway, I left the house before either of my sons had woke up and got back at roughly 1PM.
When I got home, I could tell my oldest son was in a bad mood and when asked what was wrong, he said that he was highly annoyed with his brother and he then started crying uncontrollably.
He’s never done this before.

Should we be worried?

I mean, there should be a balance between attention given to a child over the other. It should never be, all the attention on one child alternatively, but spread evenly on all the children, if you can do this, I think it will be perfect and also great for you, as you will see how it will pay off, or ask for help if you can get any. It's clearly not easy to do everything on your own, especially with 2 children, so don't worry it isn't unusual, but something I learnt observing different scenarios was the attention when it is evenly spread, all children get along, when it's just one child it isn't going to work and they are going to argue and feel neglected, alternatively, and that is going to wear you out too, as a response, so it's ok to be the same with both.