Hi. My name is Mark. I'm 43-years-old. I live with my mum, dad and younger sister. I'm mostly happy and emotionally stable. My 71-yr-old mother deeply offended me on Mother's Day. I gave her a card with AUD $100.00. It deeply offended her because it wasn't enough money. She gave me the cold shoulder and silent treatment, then rudely left the house without so much of a kiss on the cheek or thank you. That really hurt me considering that I'm no mind reader and didn't know exactly how much money to give her which would be enough to put a big happy smile on her face. Because I can see that all the nice things that I've given her in the past meant absolutely nothing to her, I feel that it may be best to never give each other presents ever again in order to avoid future arguments. Many times I've given her $100.00 in the past and that seemed good enough for her back then but now everything has changed.
Within the last 4 years, I spent over $9000 on her. Am I not entitled to a little breather once in a while and give her less? I believe she got offended because I recently pulled $47,000 out of the bank and only gave her a lousy $100. She feels that because she runs around everywhere and puts food on the table and cooks for me, that she's entitled to receive more money. While that may be true, what she doesn't understand is that this year is different. After listening to Mike Adams Situation Update podcasts, I now fear an economic collapse. I need to watch my money and only buy that which is most important if we are to survive as a family. I'm thinking of the long-term survival of this family. I suddenly transformed into a prepper. I can see many large payments looming over the horizon. Being on a disability pension, I just can't afford to spend too much money on her and/or buy useless trinkets. I'm in survival mode at the moment and only looking to buy that which is most essential. I'm currently stocking up on food and will soon be buying a Big Berkey water purifier once new stock arrives here in Australia.
Please tell me who is being more selfish and greedy here? Am I at fault for giving her a lousy $100.00, or is she at fault for demanding more?
Several days later, there's hardly any food left in the fridge. Just one overripe avocado and a bit of stale bread. Since Mother's Day, she's still avoiding me like the plague.
You know, I don't deserve this. I'm a very loving and caring person. I always place people first ahead of myself. I waste no time but do nice things for people, and this is the kind of respect that I receive in return? Pfft!
My mum used to get deeply offended when my dad gave her certain cards and presents. My mum sends out this aura like she expects to get hurt come every Mother's Day, birthday or Christmas. I believe that she learnt this psychological conditioning from her sister. Her sister would often deliberately send her insulting gifts such as framed photos of their dog or daughter or other. I remember the day when my mother got offended after my dad gave her a simple birthday card of two birds looking at each other. My mother and sister totally freaked out and misinterpreted the symbolic meaning as being insulting. It totally blew my mind that my mum and sister would behave in such an irrational and immature way, blow things out of proportion and take this as another direct insult. I personally saw nothing wrong with the card. They always misinterpret and get things wrong about people's true motives, and no matter how many times you try to right their wrongs, they refuse to listen to reason and always believe that they are in the right and everybody else is wrong. It is most often delusional thinking. They are quick to take offense over the silliest of things that any normal person would brush off as nothing. When things go wrong they team up together and always get things muddled up. My dad and I have to suffer fools. Me and my dad live with two mentally handicapped women who have zero emotional intelligence nor intuitive insight.
No matter what the argument, my mother and sister always have to be right. They can never allow themselves to admit when they've gotten something wrong. They have never apologized for being in the wrong. My mother and sister are good at playing the victim card, and that it's everybody else's fault other than their own while they allow themselves to continue to suffer and get sick despite it. That to me is very sad. With God as my witness, I refuse to bear any guilt because deep down I feel that I'm in the right.
What is really playing on my mind right now is, how is she gonna react towards me in 3 months time when it's her birthday followed by Christmas? I don't know how much to give her before she will become satisfied. If I accidentally give her less again, then that would mean another long round of silent treatment and no food in the fridge. From here onwards, I feel that it may be best that we come to some sort of agreement of no more presents for either of us. I would much prefer to receive nothing for birthdays and Christmas than to be in her debt where I have to give her something of equal value in return. The one thing that I hate most is arguing with people. I must keep the peace at all costs and come to some sort of resolution.
From this whole experience, it really hurts me that I should now find myself in a position where I must prove to her how much I love her by offering her substantial amounts of cash. My love for my naive and innocent, beautiful Christian mother is unconditional. She of all people should already know by now where my heart lies. She should be happy and grateful that I at least offered her something rather than nothing. That $100.00 could buy her a nice Chinese meal or a big box of chocolates. What does she expect from me? A David Jones Louis Vuitton handbag to match her David Jones Louis Vuitton shoes? Like, get real! What she deserves is a slap in the face for being greedy, selfish and flat out rude to the loving and caring son who loves her with all his heart. Why must I match my sister's overly expensive presents year after year? It's not right. Sorry, but it just doesn't feel right. I did absolutely nothing wrong to deserve this punishment!
Within the last 4 years, I spent over $9000 on her. Am I not entitled to a little breather once in a while and give her less? I believe she got offended because I recently pulled $47,000 out of the bank and only gave her a lousy $100. She feels that because she runs around everywhere and puts food on the table and cooks for me, that she's entitled to receive more money. While that may be true, what she doesn't understand is that this year is different. After listening to Mike Adams Situation Update podcasts, I now fear an economic collapse. I need to watch my money and only buy that which is most important if we are to survive as a family. I'm thinking of the long-term survival of this family. I suddenly transformed into a prepper. I can see many large payments looming over the horizon. Being on a disability pension, I just can't afford to spend too much money on her and/or buy useless trinkets. I'm in survival mode at the moment and only looking to buy that which is most essential. I'm currently stocking up on food and will soon be buying a Big Berkey water purifier once new stock arrives here in Australia.
Please tell me who is being more selfish and greedy here? Am I at fault for giving her a lousy $100.00, or is she at fault for demanding more?
Several days later, there's hardly any food left in the fridge. Just one overripe avocado and a bit of stale bread. Since Mother's Day, she's still avoiding me like the plague.
You know, I don't deserve this. I'm a very loving and caring person. I always place people first ahead of myself. I waste no time but do nice things for people, and this is the kind of respect that I receive in return? Pfft!
My mum used to get deeply offended when my dad gave her certain cards and presents. My mum sends out this aura like she expects to get hurt come every Mother's Day, birthday or Christmas. I believe that she learnt this psychological conditioning from her sister. Her sister would often deliberately send her insulting gifts such as framed photos of their dog or daughter or other. I remember the day when my mother got offended after my dad gave her a simple birthday card of two birds looking at each other. My mother and sister totally freaked out and misinterpreted the symbolic meaning as being insulting. It totally blew my mind that my mum and sister would behave in such an irrational and immature way, blow things out of proportion and take this as another direct insult. I personally saw nothing wrong with the card. They always misinterpret and get things wrong about people's true motives, and no matter how many times you try to right their wrongs, they refuse to listen to reason and always believe that they are in the right and everybody else is wrong. It is most often delusional thinking. They are quick to take offense over the silliest of things that any normal person would brush off as nothing. When things go wrong they team up together and always get things muddled up. My dad and I have to suffer fools. Me and my dad live with two mentally handicapped women who have zero emotional intelligence nor intuitive insight.
No matter what the argument, my mother and sister always have to be right. They can never allow themselves to admit when they've gotten something wrong. They have never apologized for being in the wrong. My mother and sister are good at playing the victim card, and that it's everybody else's fault other than their own while they allow themselves to continue to suffer and get sick despite it. That to me is very sad. With God as my witness, I refuse to bear any guilt because deep down I feel that I'm in the right.
What is really playing on my mind right now is, how is she gonna react towards me in 3 months time when it's her birthday followed by Christmas? I don't know how much to give her before she will become satisfied. If I accidentally give her less again, then that would mean another long round of silent treatment and no food in the fridge. From here onwards, I feel that it may be best that we come to some sort of agreement of no more presents for either of us. I would much prefer to receive nothing for birthdays and Christmas than to be in her debt where I have to give her something of equal value in return. The one thing that I hate most is arguing with people. I must keep the peace at all costs and come to some sort of resolution.
From this whole experience, it really hurts me that I should now find myself in a position where I must prove to her how much I love her by offering her substantial amounts of cash. My love for my naive and innocent, beautiful Christian mother is unconditional. She of all people should already know by now where my heart lies. She should be happy and grateful that I at least offered her something rather than nothing. That $100.00 could buy her a nice Chinese meal or a big box of chocolates. What does she expect from me? A David Jones Louis Vuitton handbag to match her David Jones Louis Vuitton shoes? Like, get real! What she deserves is a slap in the face for being greedy, selfish and flat out rude to the loving and caring son who loves her with all his heart. Why must I match my sister's overly expensive presents year after year? It's not right. Sorry, but it just doesn't feel right. I did absolutely nothing wrong to deserve this punishment!
