Hi, I hope someone can shed some light on this situation. My ex boyfriend and I split up a year ago. While we were together (it was a long distance relationship) I was convinced that he had mental health problems, specifically a personality disorder. He was verbally abusive, a liar, manipulative, and depressed. He would cheat on me and try to tell me about it in detail and he would often tell me he was gay (even though he only had sex with women) and that no women were ever good enough for him. At times it seemed that he had no conscience at all, he would hurt me or his friends and not care or even seem to notice. Well, when we finally broke up it was because he already had another girlfriend (at that time we were living close together). They are still together but he recently contacted me and more or less said that all of the issues he had when we were together had gone away. Now I feel really guilty, maybe I deserved the way he treated me or caused it in someway. Is it possible that it was all my fault or is he hiding what's really going on? He says he wants to be friends, which I don't mind but now he is treating me quite coldly. Maybe he has a grudge against me, but for what?