I have no interest in sexual penetration. All my sexual fantasies involve being spanked, bathed and cuddled to a woman's breast. Is that normal? Also, I sometimes get really sad while looking at porn or after masturbation.
Perhaps you need more than porn and self gratification. Perhaps you need actual human interaction along with holding hands, cuddling, conversation, and so forth. If you ever get to the point of acting out your fantasies make sure your partner understands what your expectations are, and agrees to go along with your fantasies. Get off the porn, and spend time interacting with others, and you may find that your fantasies mean less and less to you...