This is a real sore spot between my husband and I. I believe this issue is contributing greatly to our inability to communicate.
He will ask me questions and when I try to clarify the question by asking why do you ask? he will say "no reason" "there was no thought behind it"
For example. a coworker of mine is dating KJ Jefferson from the Arkansas Razorback team. we are watching the Ark vs Ole Miss game and he turns and asks me "do you believe your friend is dating him?"
the intonation suggested he was aking me if I believe it because he did not. so I said why wouldn't I believe it? He said "it was just a question" This infuriates me because in my mind questions don't just occur from the absence of any kind of stimuli, something we see, hear or remember that sparks a thought which prompts a question. But no matter what the question or how accusatory it sounds there is never any reason behind his questions.
can anyone shed light on this dilema? if this is legit it could save a marriage
He will ask me questions and when I try to clarify the question by asking why do you ask? he will say "no reason" "there was no thought behind it"
For example. a coworker of mine is dating KJ Jefferson from the Arkansas Razorback team. we are watching the Ark vs Ole Miss game and he turns and asks me "do you believe your friend is dating him?"
the intonation suggested he was aking me if I believe it because he did not. so I said why wouldn't I believe it? He said "it was just a question" This infuriates me because in my mind questions don't just occur from the absence of any kind of stimuli, something we see, hear or remember that sparks a thought which prompts a question. But no matter what the question or how accusatory it sounds there is never any reason behind his questions.
can anyone shed light on this dilema? if this is legit it could save a marriage