Why is it easy for me to quit smoking cigarettes? (Willpower, techniques, or other?)

Jun 2020
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Greece
The first time I smoked was when I was 13. This became a 7-year-long daily habit before the first time I quit. I was tobacco free for about 2 years, then I started smoking again for another 2 years. After that, I quit again. I started and quit two more times, and now, at age 30, I've been smoke-free for years. I decided I will never start again because it's just stupid to do it, especially when it's so easy to quit. For me, it's nothing more than about 3 days of moodiness and cravings. As those cravings come up, I ensure that I don't let my mind linger on any thoughts about a sense of satisfaction from smoking, nor rationalize my way into "just one more." Instead, I refocus and shift my thoughts. When the cravings are the most intense...I feel a sense of angry willpower: I refuse to allow some inanimate object to control me, I refuse to allow the Tobacco industry to profit from destroying my health/life. I basically take a few moments to think about these kinds of things, and I imagine myself basically giving the greedy Tobacco industry a big middle finger. This is sort of just my overall personality, I am defiant that way against the damages from my past abuses and such as well (both parents were narcissistic, my only sibling was sexually abusive, and I was heavily isolated to that environment while otherwise largely unsocialized, even with extended family...I've had a ton of work to do to grow beyond the damages, and this defiance against their impact on me is how I've just always been). Defiant, rebellious, divergent thinker, stubborn, strong-willed, etc. are all personality traits of mine, although I use them in positive ways. Stubbornly adhering to good things, rebelling against oppressive forces, things like this. I am a lot like "Spirit," from the horse movie, personality wise. Anyway, aside from that, I refocus/reshift my thoughts onto the alternatives I want and the advantages to quitting. No more nasty smell, healthier teeth/skin/etc., living a healthier/longer life for my future kids I haven't yet had, etc. I imagine things such as dying without getting to see my kid get married, or I think about the years of my grandkids' lives I might miss (if I have them). I think about all those disadvantages to smoking and the advantages to not smoking. By the time I get up and return to my day after thinking, I've got a fire in my eyes and there's no way I'm giving any of that up to the greedy pockets of the Tobacco industry, and my cravings dwindle as the determination outweighs it.

Why is it easy for me to quit smoking cigarettes, when most people never overcome it? Is this just willpower? My dad and I are both incredibly strong-willed people, and he also used to smoke and then quit. Is it some kind of genetic predisposition I have to being this way? Is it just a mindset thing? The technique of reframing / shifting my focus? The belief that I can do it? That my desire for what I gain from quitting outweighs my desire for immediate gratification (scales tipping so that reward-based motivational factor falls more to that side than the other)? Conscious thought control? Personality? Or, perhaps, there's a combination of things?

Can any of this help others who are facing tobacco addiction? Can anyone who applies these techniques do this?
 
Aug 2021
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Texas, USA
First, let me congratulate you upon your determination to quit, and staying off them. Yes, I believe you are a strong willed person who has the determination to quit and stay off them. Many people confess they want to quit, but perhaps deep down inside do not want to. Many people will gain weight when they quit because their metabolism slows with out the nicotine. I think your story may be of help to some people who are struggling to quit, but many others would rather blame the nicotine for their habit than make the effort to take control of their lives and quit. There is also the physiological and psychological aspect which is very subjective, some people may have stronger physiological or psychological dependencies, while others may not become as dependent. I hope you can continue to look at your life objectively and make yourself into the person you want to be...
Best of luck to you,
Ivery
 
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Jun 2020
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Greece
First, let me congratulate you upon your determination to quit, and staying off them. Yes, I believe you are a strong willed person who has the determination to quit and stay off them. Many people confess they want to quit, but perhaps deep down inside do not want to. Many people will gain weight when they quit because their metabolism slows with out the nicotine. I think your story may be of help to some people who are struggling to quit, but many others would rather blame the nicotine for their habit than make the effort to take control of their lives and quit. There is also the physiological and psychological aspect which is very subjective, some people may have stronger physiological or psychological dependencies, while others may not become as dependent. I hope you can continue to look at your life objectively and make yourself into the person you want to be...
Best of luck to you,
Ivery
I dont get it. Why would they not want to? There are people with emphezema, etc from it that still keep smoking.
 
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Jul 2021
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I dont get it. Why would they not want to? There are people with emphezema, etc from it that still keep smoking.
Emphysema yes, I think addiction is made during childhood, but other forms of addiction too, the issue is families don't talk about it, not even negatively. And I do think addiction stems more from ignorance than anything else, but then yes there is always the bad guy who capitalises on it, and that's something hard to digest, and that might explain the war on drugs.
 
Aug 2021
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Texas, USA
There is evidence that there is a genetic trait which predisposes some people to be more susceptible to addiction than to others. Specifically, alchohol or drugs. Of course, being in a home where either is abused may lead to the children falling into the same addictions. Whether genetic or environmental, it definitely influences the behavior of the children in the home. Also, some drugs may make chemical or physiological changes in the brain, just with the first use. These issues are multi faceted with no clear answers. Regarding those who do not wish to quit, many who have anxiety issues will self medicate with alcohol or drugs. I am glad you were able to escape the addiction with relative ease, others are not nearly as fortunate...
Merry Christmas,
Ivery
 
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