Manipulation or gaslighting ?

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Jan 2022
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Japan
I often blinded with a guy who is narcissistic or gaslighter.
Their words is amazingly makes me feel trust them but their behavior is makes me hurt a lot.
Recently I have met a guy who dating,he was very good at with his words. And but he was so wired his behavior so I push him away,
I liked him but I noticed this is a bad sign,so I told him let’s stop contact while.

Then he said me “we shouldn’t stop contact let’s discuss by phone call tomorrow at 13:00 again.”
So I give him chance. Then he overslept until 15:00.
I forgave him once and he told me “this is please last chance let me try for talk tomorrow at 13:00.”
Then he overslept again. And he told me”I really think of you I saw a dream of you. But I’m depressed can we talk later maybe hour or later.”
Then after he was not coming back until midnight.
I was wait for hour …but he came back to reply after 7hours later.

I was very angry but he said me”what? I never promise you to talk! I said maybe! You wanna know? I was with niece ! Are you happy to know?why should I feel guilt I just played with niece.”

Then I was like why he don’t feel sorry for me this…
Then he said suddenly go to cinema with a guy at 24:30.

I wonder does it open cinema at 24:30?
Then he said “it’s normal open! Your world maybe not open.”

I was so confused and I said let’s end this.
Then he said me”maybe we will hear each other future . We’ll see”

I am very confused…. Does it manipulation?


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I often blinded with a guy who is narcissistic or gaslighter.
Their words is amazingly makes me feel trust them but their behavior is makes me hurt a lot.
Recently I have met a guy who dating,he was very good at with his words. And but he was so wired his behavior so I push him away,
I liked him but I noticed this is a bad sign,so I told him let’s stop contact while.

Then he said me “we shouldn’t stop contact let’s discuss by phone call tomorrow at 13:00 again.”
So I give him chance. Then he overslept until 15:00.
I forgave him once and he told me “this is please last chance let me try for talk tomorrow at 13:00.”
Then he overslept again. And he told me”I really think of you I saw a dream of you. But I’m depressed can we talk later maybe hour or later.”
Then after he was not coming back until midnight.
I was wait for hour …but he came back to reply after 7hours later.

I was very angry but he said me”what? I never promise you to talk! I said maybe! You wanna know? I was with niece ! Are you happy to know?why should I feel guilt I just played with niece.”

Then I was like why he don’t feel sorry for me this…
Then he said suddenly go to cinema with a guy at 24:30.

I wonder does it open cinema at 24:30?
Then he said “it’s normal open! Your world maybe not open.”

I was so confused and I said let’s end this.
Then he said me”maybe we will hear each other future . We’ll see”

I am very confused…. Does it manipulation?


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I mean, those are certainly red flags, narcolepsy is usually associated with substance abuse, and hence it is a red flag. I mean he is not a nurse who works night shifts. But do you get hurt over it? I think it is best to maintain distance with people, and yes, unfortunately some can be like predators, imagine that's 99 percent of the population, not everyone who displays predatory behaviour is that way, if someone likes you from the start till the end it is ok, but those whom you can't rely on is a bit harder, I'd say unless someone suddenly had a stroke from the covid19 which however means needs to be hospitalised for at least a couple of days under observation, or Idk has a gastroenteritis or something then it is usually a red flag to disappear like that. Hope this helps. So yes, best not to get attached quickly to those who promise a lot, it's ok to keep the promises, I am not saying always, but at least 99 percent of the time. That doesn't happen with the psychopath. The great thing is 1 percent of the population is unreliable and psychopathic, but 99 percent of the people are good, but trust me, if you are a nice woman whom you are, nuts will come your way, as it's natural especially nowadays, even if it's only 1 percent of the population and you must dodge those bullets. Best to enjoy the new year with your dear and near ones, instead of worrying over some psycho online.

But yes, it's clearly manipulative, but why you are self-doubting I don't get.
 
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