That someone forcing their views on others is toxic, you don't understand toxicity which is why you end up finding yourself in those unpleasant situations. Some people do not accept there are toxic and bad people out there, even if psychology has proven it countless times, and that is because you are not enforcing boundaries, or maybe you are but unconsciously. If something makes you feel uncomfortable and someone wants you to get you to do something compromising you feel discomfort, those are your internal boundaries, you are not forced to commit an act to please another. Being strong is what being in this world is about. You don't know what toxicity is, toxicity is just a way to describe certain dark personalities. This is all part of experience, and social experience.
Someone who is always negative about everything, either is unwell physically, or is a nutter, so it isn't hard to understand. If someone is always forceful about their point of view, I'd have to say it is quite a red flag, of a toxic personality. Controlling others is what psychopaths tend to do, and I can only refer you to Hare's books or any other psychologist's books, because it is not a legend, bad people do exist, and it is better for us to be prepared and so we can deal with them. I have dealt with them, because I am prepared, if I weren't prepared I wouldn't be able to deal with those people, to begin with. And they are always forceful as you can see, but only behind closed doors, and they have years of experience at their backs too, this is why you even question yourself, they have mastered the art of manipulation, even I sometimes get deceived. I was recently deceived into a job like that, because that would have been the only area I could have been deceived, since my walls and boundaries are so firm just now in every other area of my life. It was just that one, that because of necessity and need I wanted to, and that is how it ended up, you should never show your needs to anyone, as narcissists tend to do, they do it as they have bad things in their minds, we must do it, to be cautious.
Neverthless, you are not to be blamed for other people's behaviours, and that is what you must know, but these experiences all build up your emotional intelligence. My opinion is that regardless what I do the psychopath doesn't change, so I just don't bother with them, if I can find a mediator to give me what is my right and to mitigate the losses, usually a lawyer or the company they work at, but otherwise I don't bother talking to those people and I'd have to advise to anyone dealing with psychopaths to report them for stalking, because even on a legal standpoint the stuff they do, I just can't accept. Everything that goes on wrong in the world is because of them, and people still want to make excuses for those horrific people, but I see the suffering I see the victims, I have suffered I have been a victim so I see it in others, and so I can't tolerate bad people. You are claiming you are tolerating them, but really I think in a few years, you'll regret your tolerating them too.
I am just saying that if it were me and not you, I'd just flag them as bad people and not deal with them at all if I could. It's not worth my time. And time is money.
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