Does people want to hear truth?

Jul 2021
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My point is "Is the truthfulness of a statement sufficient reason for a human to want it to hear it?". In other words do we want to hear the truth simply and just because it is truthful? As IveryKeys said truth may lead to a change and change can be uncomfortable. Well although change is necessary for progress is progress desired? We as a humans don't like when others lie to us, especially the loved ones, but are there not things we don't want to find out despite them being truthful and real even more than we want to hear the truth? Another question is "Why do/would we even want to hear the truth?".

Btw IDK what to imagine under "these types of conversation" or how is a topic related to toxicity of a discussion.
That someone forcing their views on others is toxic, you don't understand toxicity which is why you end up finding yourself in those unpleasant situations. Some people do not accept there are toxic and bad people out there, even if psychology has proven it countless times, and that is because you are not enforcing boundaries, or maybe you are but unconsciously. If something makes you feel uncomfortable and someone wants you to get you to do something compromising you feel discomfort, those are your internal boundaries, you are not forced to commit an act to please another. Being strong is what being in this world is about. You don't know what toxicity is, toxicity is just a way to describe certain dark personalities. This is all part of experience, and social experience.

Someone who is always negative about everything, either is unwell physically, or is a nutter, so it isn't hard to understand. If someone is always forceful about their point of view, I'd have to say it is quite a red flag, of a toxic personality. Controlling others is what psychopaths tend to do, and I can only refer you to Hare's books or any other psychologist's books, because it is not a legend, bad people do exist, and it is better for us to be prepared and so we can deal with them. I have dealt with them, because I am prepared, if I weren't prepared I wouldn't be able to deal with those people, to begin with. And they are always forceful as you can see, but only behind closed doors, and they have years of experience at their backs too, this is why you even question yourself, they have mastered the art of manipulation, even I sometimes get deceived. I was recently deceived into a job like that, because that would have been the only area I could have been deceived, since my walls and boundaries are so firm just now in every other area of my life. It was just that one, that because of necessity and need I wanted to, and that is how it ended up, you should never show your needs to anyone, as narcissists tend to do, they do it as they have bad things in their minds, we must do it, to be cautious.

Neverthless, you are not to be blamed for other people's behaviours, and that is what you must know, but these experiences all build up your emotional intelligence. My opinion is that regardless what I do the psychopath doesn't change, so I just don't bother with them, if I can find a mediator to give me what is my right and to mitigate the losses, usually a lawyer or the company they work at, but otherwise I don't bother talking to those people and I'd have to advise to anyone dealing with psychopaths to report them for stalking, because even on a legal standpoint the stuff they do, I just can't accept. Everything that goes on wrong in the world is because of them, and people still want to make excuses for those horrific people, but I see the suffering I see the victims, I have suffered I have been a victim so I see it in others, and so I can't tolerate bad people. You are claiming you are tolerating them, but really I think in a few years, you'll regret your tolerating them too.

I am just saying that if it were me and not you, I'd just flag them as bad people and not deal with them at all if I could. It's not worth my time. And time is money.
 
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I am not sure why you are mentioning the psychopathy issue. I am missing the point or you just felt like sharing this information with me, at least that's how I see it.
That someone forcing their views on others is toxic, you don't understand toxicity which is why you end up finding yourself in those unpleasant situations.
This one in particular I don't understand. In what unpleasant situations do I find myself?
 
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I am not sure why you are mentioning the psychopathy issue. I am missing the point or you just felt like sharing this information with me, at least that's how I see it.

This one in particular I don't understand. In what unpleasant situations do I find myself?
People who force their views on you don't want the best for you trust me. I have had a parent who was this way. She'd force me in bad situations as she never had money. She was too attached to money too. These individuals are really toxic and dangerous. Even after she got a bit of money, she'd still get too attached to money, it was a family trait actually as I noticed all her siblings were this way, they would rather have money than family, they understand the price of everything but the value of nothing. Trust me, I know. I don't even bother arguing, why should you argue? Spoiled parent is not good to have as they don't understand a thing. They don't want responsibility, they don't want children, Idk what they want in life. Why they even reproduce if they hate children, Idk. Sometimes emotional support or a positive word helps a lot, I had to do that to myself all my life, this is why I feel 100 years old even I am 36, because it has been such a struggle since I was born, and I don't think orphans had it this difficult, as orphans are left alone at least they are allowed to make great decisions, when you have a bad presence it becomes harder making decisions. It is not easy trust me. You must be really strong in this sheet world, not everyone is born in the best families. Realize it is a part of life, some people are lucky some are not, and must work thousands of times harder than others, hopefully you get the rewards in the end, but so far, no reward. In the workplace it is really difficult, all criminals are at work, now, so it's not easy. Luckily for my siblings they had me and friends and family, but I have only me and a few friends, and that's how I survive.

One time they took me out after I had been a victim of organized crime and they agreed I should prostitute myself and even told me so, I said if you let me out in the street I am going to walk to the police station and report you for the violation of my rights. They didn't bother me again, life was such a struggle, and if someone hates you and tells you they don't want you, believe them. They only come to you when they need you, otherwise they are fine. Most people are that way, they only come to you when they need you. Even parents. Some parents are good, some are really bad, unfortunately, and this is life. Actually looking back, a lot of my failures were because of decisions I had to make because of them, that I never wanted to make, and I had no choice. This is a shame, as everyone has normal parents who do their jobs. Not me. It is you against the world, and it's not easy at all, but it's life. Even those same people had lots of help, you have none, it's hard and sad.
 
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