All I want to know is one thing

Nov 2021
4
4
Belfry
Why can everyone else get relationships so easy and with no effort at all and it’s like it’s just handed to them… but I literally have not been able to get one woman to want to date me in 24 years? There has to be a curse on me. I seriously don’t get it. For years I have dealt with women leaving me on read, not even giving me the time of day, send one or two messages then never text me again, and so on. I’ve been lied to, done wrong, lead on, blown off, the whole nine yards. If once in a blue moon a girl takes an interest in talking to me and we’re able to maintain conversations and things go good and we even miraculously hangout by some divine intervention, the shoe just drops right after that and it never turns into a relationship. And yet… people are getting into relationships, having sex, getting to hangout with whoever of the opposite sex that they want whenever they want on a daily basis. It happens for everyone else but not me. Read this sentence and understand it: I have NEVER been had anything with a woman but every other guy can have whatever they want. And every woman can have whatever they want with any other guy. Gods lets literally anyone have success with the opposite sex but me. That’s why I say there is truly a curse on me. I try over and over to get this point across to people but no one will take the time to listen to what I’m saying and understand the pain I go through. All they do is give me advice like “It’ll happen when it’s time”, “work on yourself” it’s not everything it’s cracked up to be” yeah it’s easy for someone who’s has plenty of relationships before to say that to someone who hasn’t experienced it once. That’s one thing I absolutely cannot stand. Another one I’m damned tired of hearing is “When it comes to people you think are happy in relationships, most of those relationships probably aren’t that good” well at least those relationships HAPPENED. People who say they’ve been divorced and been through bad relationships, those relationships at least came to fruition. I’ve never had ONE come to fruition, ever!!! I mean what else is there to say other than it looks like I am destined to be alone and that everyone else is meant to have that significant other in their life but me!! I have dealt with this for SO long and nothing has ever changed. And it looks like nothing ever will change. You have no idea what I would give to be in one relationship. Just one. And even have sex once. I’m a virgin at 24 and it’s embarrassing. That’s something else that comes to anyone who wants it with ease and they don’t have to do a damn thing to get it. I am just so tired of dealing with this pain and I want it to end. But I feel like none of the changes I ever try to make will matter. That’s all I want is an answer to the question of why has God decided to let me suffer like this when it comes to women and be alone forever. That’s something I’ve been trying to figure out for my entire life. I am meant to be alone and I am meant to suffer. There’s no way out of this hell.


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Aug 2021
395
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Texas, USA
First of all you are not cursed. And I did read your post! Is there someone you can go to and talk honestly about this to? Perhaps a teacher, counselor, clergy, or someone else? You are looking at only one side of this issue. The other side is that people are breaking up, getting divorced, yelling at each other all the time as well. No one who is in a relationship has it easy. Relationships require work and cooperation. Chores have to be agreed upon, work and house work have to be done, bills have to be paid, (and by the way, do not fall for the old "two can live a cheaply as one" myth, two cars, twice as much food, twice as many clothes, etc.), someone does not feel good or is tired, all of this requires work and effort. In the end, it is probably easier to live by oneself, but a relationship is worth all the effort. As I recommended in your previous post, volunteer, join a club, take dancing lessons, find a hobby, all these are great ways to meet someone with similar interest and attitudes. There is a way out of hell, but it requires work, and I believe you can accomplish this. You are not alone, nor are you the only person this happens to. I am pulling for you...
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Jul 2021
783
103
London
Why can everyone else get relationships so easy and with no effort at all and it’s like it’s just handed to them… but I literally have not been able to get one woman to want to date me in 24 years? There has to be a curse on me. I seriously don’t get it. For years I have dealt with women leaving me on read, not even giving me the time of day, send one or two messages then never text me again, and so on. I’ve been lied to, done wrong, lead on, blown off, the whole nine yards. If once in a blue moon a girl takes an interest in talking to me and we’re able to maintain conversations and things go good and we even miraculously hangout by some divine intervention, the shoe just drops right after that and it never turns into a relationship. And yet… people are getting into relationships, having sex, getting to hangout with whoever of the opposite sex that they want whenever they want on a daily basis. It happens for everyone else but not me. Read this sentence and understand it: I have NEVER been had anything with a woman but every other guy can have whatever they want. And every woman can have whatever they want with any other guy. Gods lets literally anyone have success with the opposite sex but me. That’s why I say there is truly a curse on me. I try over and over to get this point across to people but no one will take the time to listen to what I’m saying and understand the pain I go through. All they do is give me advice like “It’ll happen when it’s time”, “work on yourself” it’s not everything it’s cracked up to be” yeah it’s easy for someone who’s has plenty of relationships before to say that to someone who hasn’t experienced it once. That’s one thing I absolutely cannot stand. Another one I’m damned tired of hearing is “When it comes to people you think are happy in relationships, most of those relationships probably aren’t that good” well at least those relationships HAPPENED. People who say they’ve been divorced and been through bad relationships, those relationships at least came to fruition. I’ve never had ONE come to fruition, ever!!! I mean what else is there to say other than it looks like I am destined to be alone and that everyone else is meant to have that significant other in their life but me!! I have dealt with this for SO long and nothing has ever changed. And it looks like nothing ever will change. You have no idea what I would give to be in one relationship. Just one. And even have sex once. I’m a virgin at 24 and it’s embarrassing. That’s something else that comes to anyone who wants it with ease and they don’t have to do a damn thing to get it. I am just so tired of dealing with this pain and I want it to end. But I feel like none of the changes I ever try to make will matter. That’s all I want is an answer to the question of why has God decided to let me suffer like this when it comes to women and be alone forever. That’s something I’ve been trying to figure out for my entire life. I am meant to be alone and I am meant to suffer. There’s no way out of this hell.


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Lol, your personality is like me but pessimistic. Unfortunately I am a realistic optimist so can't help ;) :')-Z
 
Dec 2021
3
2
Zürich
hey wie alt bist du? 24 ig?? Du bist doch noch soo Jung und ich kenne so viele Leute die 30 ig sind und noch Jungfrau und auch noch nie Beziehungen hatten. Auch mein Bruder hatte das erste Mal mit 34 ig eine Freundin. Ebenso meine beste Freundin war 28 ig as sie das erste mal Sex hatte und auch nie einen Freund davor.
Ich glaube eher, dass du zuviele Freunde oder Leute um dich hast, die damit angeben oder vielleicht gar keinen Sex hatten und sagen es nur. Oder wenn du Päärchen siehst muss das nicht heissen das die noch lange zusammen sind.
Du bist nicht der einzige auf dieser Welt glaube mir. Ich kenne soviele Leute sterben erst später den ersten Partner hatten mit 27 ig bis 34 ig. Ich hatte auch keine Partnerschaft mit 24 ig und erst mit 28 ig mein erster.
Du machst dich krank mit diesen Gedanken weil es deine Sehnsucht ist. Aber meist kommt dieser Wunsch erst zustande, wenn du es nicht am suchen bist. Frauen merken, wenn du verzweifelt bist und das wirkt eher unsexy. Ein Mann sollte nicht verzweifelt wirken.
Eher gelassen und ohne Probleme und ohne Sehnsucht. Einer der guten Wege in der Zukunft ist und nicht jammert. Das möchten Frauen und ist sexy. Merk dir das! ☺ Denk nicht so viel an das schlechte.
Du wirst auch an der Reihe sein, wenn du das Problem weniger ausstrahlst! Frauen wollen Helden im Bett☺
 
Jan 2022
14
8
Coventry
Maybe, you're fine and enjoy being alone, and would actually hate having someone around you all day, getting in your way and on your nerves, but you're so attached to the idea of finding someone to be happy, that you haven't stopped to consider whether you might not actually want or need this at all, and that maybe the way to set yourself free from this pain, is to realize you never really wanted it in the first place, you just thought you did, and you're actually fine with being single - don't be fooled by what everyone else is doing. Find something deeply meaningful to pursue that will make you intensely proud of yourself, and everything will be fine.